Sapiosexuality is a recently constructed word (neologism) that has come into common usage, particularly on social networking sites where people are self-identifying as sapiosexual. It is a concatenation of the Latin root sapio — from sapiens, meaning wise or intelligent and the Latin root sexualis, pertaining to sexual preferences.

Wolfieboy of LiveJournal (Darren Stalder) claims to have invented the word in 1998.

“Me? I don’t care too much about the plumbing. I want an incisive, inquisitive, insightful, irreverent mind. I want someone for whom philosophical discussion is foreplay. I want someone who sometimes makes me go ouch due to their wit and evil sense of humor. I want someone that I can reach out and touch randomly. I want someone I can cuddle with. I decided all that means that I am sapiosexual.”Wolfieboy

Some tongue-in-cheek signs of sapiosexuality are the following:

1. Your heart races at the sight of a man/woman with a 700 page book. Librarians look particularly irresistible.


2. You get a serious pleasure while reading, and not just erotica.


3. You tend to say something along these lines:

“Have you ever conceptualized Arthur Schopenhauer?”

“I don’t especially enjoy sex with you — we hardly connect on intellectual level.”

“It’s your brilliant mind I admire most.”


4. It’s not the sight of your partner’s lips but the sound of the words coming out of them that turn you on.


M. Pivovarov. The writer.

5. You are elated when your partner goes out to get, say, a rhinoceros but returns carrying a book or five.

Oleg Nizovtsev

Oleg Nizovtsev

6. The bigger is your partner’s library — the more sexually attracted to him/her you are.s-ANTON-EGO-large300

7. You like it when your partner looks nerdy and talks smartly, rather than dresses smartly and talks dirty.  мужик с телефоном

It’s great if, say, a fellow with abundance of sapio in his head happens to be sapiosexual or sapiophile  — these terms often used interchangeably. Sadly, however, this is not always the case. Take, for instance, professor Frampton, featured in 2 previous posts. Professor cared less about Denise Milani’s sapio and never discussed Schopenhauer with her. After all, she had plenty of other attractive assets… Ah, well, it takes all kinds…

Meanwhile, the term sapiosexuality gains acceptance, widely discussed and appears on many dating sites.