The Object of My Affection

Pygmalion by Jean-Baptiste Regnault, 1786, Musée national du château et des Trianons

Pygmalion by Jean-Baptiste Regnault, 1786, Musée national du château et des Trianons

Pygmalion was a talented Greek sculptor from Cyprus. After becoming disgusted by some local prostitutes, he lost all interest in Pygmalion-And-Galatea1-300x357women and avoided their company completely. He saw women as flawed creatures and vowed never to waste any moment of his life with them.

Instead, Pygmalion created Galatea, a beautiful ivory stature of a woman, and he fell in love with her. He prayed to goddess Aphrodite to give him a wife just like his statue. Aphrodite did  him one better — she brought  his statue to life. Galatea became a real woman, they got married and had two children. The end.

The unusual love that blossomed between Pygmalion and Galatea enthralls all. Falling in love with one’s creation and then getting the desired object as wife — a dream come true, indeed.

57-year-old Everard Cunion, from Dorset, UK,  had always been fond of shop mannequins, but since they’re as hard as rock, he decided to go for something that looked as good as that, but was more flexible. He now lives with nine realistic looking dolls

Everard bought Rebecca, his first artificial woman, in 2000. It wasn’t until 2004 that he decided to get his second doll, not because he had been trying to stay faithful to his first, but he simply couldn’t afford to buy another one until then. The man admits that when he first saw the price tags on these things he almost fell off his chair, but he goes on to say that this kind of dolls are the best things that you can buy, for any amount of money.

Everard created none of them, and, sadly, there isn’t a breath of life in his dolls. Still,  he got a desired object as wife. Nine objects, to be precise.

Cunion

Everard Cunion isn’t the only one with a thing for artificial women. Bob Gibbins, a happily married man,  shares his home with  a harem of  240 love dolls.

Object sexuality or objectum sexuality, in German Objektophilie (OS),[1] is a pronounced emotional and often romantic desire towards developing significant relationships with particular inanimate objects. Those individuals with this expressed preference may feel strong feelings of attraction, love, and commitment to certain items or structures of their fixation. For some, sexual or even close emotional relationships with humans are incomprehensible. Some object-sexual individuals also often believe in animism, and sense reciprocation based on the belief that objects have souls, intelligence, and feelings, and are able to communicate.[2] Contrary to sexual fetishism, the object to an OS person is viewed as their partner and not as a means to an end to enhance a human sexual relationship.

This is a Wikipedia definition. Pygmalion lovingly admiring a piece of ivory he carved into Galatea illustrates the article. Everyone whose heart isn’t made of ivory can understand Pygmalion, praise Aphrodite for performing a compassionate miracle. 

In love with the Berlin Wall

And this is Erika Eiffel. She received worldwide media attention because of her love and subsequent commitment ceremony with the Eiffel Tower in 2007 – hence her last name. But it’s actually the Berlin Wall that has always been there for her.

Erika is polyamorous, which means she can have more than one relationship at a time.

“My attraction to the Berlin Wall has always been there. I always felt a strong connection to objects that are misunderstood. The Eiffel Tower is this great symbol of love, but people around her are just in love with each other – not with her. The Berlin Wall was hated, I wanted to give it a chance to be loved.”

With the Berlin Wall she sees am,” sh strong personal similarity. “I was always hated for who I am,” she says shaking her head.

Objectum-Sexuality: ABC News — The Object of her Affection

The Berlin Wall is a popular object of affection, indeed. Eija-Riitta Berliner-Mauer, who’s last name literally means “Berlin Wall”, married the Berlin wall in 1979. Mauer states that she was just seven years of age when she fell in love with the Berlin Wall after seeing it on television. Mauer, who currently lives in Leiden, in Northern Sweden, said “I find long, slim things with horizontal lines very sexy” but states that the Wall of China is “too thick” for her. After the collapse of the Berlin Wall, Mauer never returned to see her partner, although she does keep replicas of it in her home. She is said to have a new affection for a garden fence.

Eija-Riitta Berliner-Mauer and the Berlin Wall

Eija-Riitta Berliner-Mauer and the Berlin Wall

Babylonia Aivaz's bride-to-be is a 107-year-old warehouse in Seattle

Babylonia Aivaz’s bride-to-be is a 107-year-old warehouse in Seattle

Babilonia Aivaz was calling her wedding with a 107 year old warehouse a ‘gay union’. The ceremony took place in January 2012. Aivaz says she fell head over heels in love with the building after joining a 200-strong Occupy Seattle protest inside the building. Admittedly, Babilonia’s OS (Objectum-Sexuality) is not your “typical” OS love story. She is in love with the cause (SAVE THE BUILDING) rather than the elderly groom — 107 year old warehouse.

South Korean Lee Jin-gyu fell in love with his body pillow of his favorite animated heroine, Fate Testarossa from the animated TV series Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha. The two were dating for six years before Jin-gyu took her to Japan to get married, where Fate-the-pillow even donned her own wedding dress. Jin-gyu later confessed that the wedding was a publicity stunt, although marriage isn’t completely out of the question and stated that, “My love for Fate is unchangeable, but I will take more time to think about our marriage.” His friends have said that the couple often go out together to parks and fairgrounds and the pillow gets its own seat when they dine together.

Lee Jin-gyu and a Dakimakura (Japanese body pillow)

South Korean Lee Jin-gyu fell in love with his body pillow of his favorite animated heroine, Fate Testarossa from the animated TV series Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha. The two were dating for six years before Jin-gyu took her to Japan to get married, where Fate-the-pillow even donned her own wedding dress.

Jin-gyu later confessed that the wedding was a publicity stunt, although marriage isn’t completely out of the question and stated that, “My love for Fate is unchangeable, but I will take more time to think about our marriage.” His friends have said that the couple often go out together to parks and fairgrounds and the pillow gets its own seat when they dine together.паровоз

41-year-old Joachim A. realized that he had an unusual sexual attraction when he was just 12 years old. His first relationship was with a Hammond organ in which he shared “an emotionally and physically very complex and deep relationship, which lasted for years.” His current partner is a steam locomotive. He admits that he has been unfaithful over the years because “a love affair could very well begin with a broken radiator”. Joachim’s   previous love affairs were often sparked by an object experiencing a technical issue and the necessary repairs made him sexually attracted to the object. He is adamant, however, that these days he is monogamous with the steam locomotive.

Well, then, is objectophilia a paraphilia (a condition characterized by abnormal sexual desires, typically involving extreme or dangerous activities), a disorder, a sickness? People who claim to have it also say that they couldn’t fall in love with a human being because they don’t feel attracted to them.

LOVE AMONG THE OBJECTUM SEXUALS is an article in the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, by Amy Marsh. The authors argues that objectophilia is not a paraphilia but a sexual orientation. If you are in love with a tree, a radiator, a garbage can or falling for a chunk of clay about to be sculpted into your Galatea, or simply curious — check it out.

Meanwhile, I’ll go and have a meaningful conversation with a doorknob I find extremely attractive for a few days already…

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